Polly My main disagreement is just with the idea, which Jennifer seeemd to present, that a woman telling a guy Yeah, I cheated on you and that’s not your child is something that guy could only object to if he felt he owned’ the woman. That’s not the case. It’s not to justify a violent reaction, but being pissed off isn’t necessarily about male supremacy so much as being human. I agree with everything else you say, I think. Not sure about attitudes about male vs female cheating. They’re not mine, and they don’t match my experience, but I recognise the attitudes you’re suggesting.