Why women date jerks (Video)

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Mike Falzone gives a well worded explanation to an age old question.

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  • walkingtheriver

    The funniest question I hear women ask is "Where are all of the nice guys at?"

    Well, we're here in the friend zone, right where you left us.

    • blueskiesred

      this post made me laugh…this coming from a girl who dated assholes till she found a nice guy….who had been in the friend zone….

    • bob lee swagger

      Women WANT a nice guy, but they RESPOND to bad boys. Deal with it. It's not bad or good, it just is. I for one, will be being a confident and cool guy who gets laid.

      • Steyan

        you're a jerk

      • Jester

        No one who calls themselves "Bob Lee Swagger" gets laid…

        • Pwithc

          Marky Mark called himself that, and I'm pretty sure he gets laid regularly.

          • chillmo

            Umm, yea. Being associated with the Funky Bunch is like having a life-time pass for getting sexified.

    • rabidbannanas


    • Kometes

      Anyone who unironically uses the term 'friend zone' is not a nice guy.

    • Marie

      90% of the guys in the friend zone think they are nice guys but they aren't. There is clearly something wrong with them that makes them a bad date, either it's mommy issues, they're clingy/dependent, they give an overall "meh" on the personality chart, etc.

      Or worse: they do everything we say, agree to everything, put us on a pedestal and let us walk all over them i.e. they try to be what they think we want and no woman wants that. Honestly.

      • Sleepy

        That's so true. There is a huge difference between a "nice guy" who is in the friendzone and what woman mean when they say they want a nice guy. Unfortunately, since they have the same label friend zoned guys think that women actually want them. Women are attracted mainly to confidence, the only problem is that the guys who have the most of it realize how desirable they are and develop an asshole personality. So when women say they want a nice guy, they mean they want an aforementioned desirable guy who also fulfills the Disney prince charming checklist.

        Friend zone "nice guys" only have that label because it is the word women use to describe a guy who doesn't have any other interesting traits. A better word would be "spineless" or "mediocre" but those are mean. Women keep men around in the friend zone because either they don't want to hurt the guy's feelings or are too naive to realize that the only reason these guys are acting so nice to them is because they want to get in their pants.

      • guest

        this may be true, but you would never tell him that, which condemns him to continue being who he is and keep him caged in a state of unhappiness.

        it would say the percentile is more in the range of 40% of guys in the friend zone have something wrong wit them. I would also say girls have expectations of us that is NOT placed on your gender. and we could get into this but the bottom line is men have to be more successful to get a date, women just have to sit there and guys will rush to them.

        if you think this is incorrect then I am sorry but its what i really believe

      • Goog

        Agreed! Besides, women don't want a nice guy they want the best guy. Just because you're nice doesn't make you a good catch.

      • Flicka

        How about the self-proclaimed "nice guys" who are really just passive-aggressive bullies?

      • Dumb Bitch XD

        site your stats or it didn't happen

        • Grammar Police


    • PeterGamble

      Honestly, I think you're right. Your post made me think of the video posted here a few days ago on the question whether there can be real friendship between boys and girls…

      But IMHO complaining about being in the friedzone doesn't help here. It's all about initiative. Again, confidence etc

  • etcrr

    Well said young man well said

  • blub_glub

    Women do not date jerks. Women have a complex of having to be right ALWAYS. Tell them different and they'll turn into bitches. That then cues the asshole persona in men to establish. Thereby, women do not date jerks. They date guys who turn* into jerks. The end!

    • Greywalker

      You, sir/madma, are an idiot.

    • taternation

      And that, my friends is what passes for logic in a woman's mind.

    • Niko

      Sadly mistaken. You can try again next post.

    • bMoles

      I call bullshit. The end!

    • myself

      I think I can honestly say this is one of the stupidest comments I have read on the Internet.

      • blub_glub

        whatever, you guys are just mad cause i have boobies :D

        • Titties


          • chuck testa

            chuck testa

        • Jimmy d

          Man boobs don't count.

  • pufffdragon

    The confidence thing is true though.
    I knew a bloke who had a face like a dogs asshole but he pulled bitches left and right.

    • http://twitter.com/Gingergreek @Gingergreek

      Hello I'm the guy with a face like a dogs asshole ladies :D

      come at me bro!!

  • Orator

    "Don't be an asshole…" Yeah no.

    Look I sympathize with the point that you're trying to make, and trust me I've been there and done that. The problem with statements like these is that they end perpetuating the nice guy myth for nice guys. Women aren't suddenly going to see this video, and change.

    Being a nice guy forever means your willing to place someone else above yourself, and inevitably that is just unattractive as shit. You end up being an emotional tampon for a girl, but you don't stir her sexually and that is why your going to be stuck in the friend zone.

    You know there is a wealth of middle ground between nice guy, and asshole just waiting to be explored.

    Self-Confidence, Self-Respect, and Self-Interest are what a nice guy needs to find to begin to attract women. Have confidence that getting rejected once is not going to be the end of it all, have a little self-respect and stop putting women on a pedestal. They don't want to be worshipped like some ethereal being, their flesh and blood. Also be a little selfish, focus on building a better life for yourself, and good-looking women are going to want to be part of it.

    It's not rocket science, but it sure as hell isn't being a sexless nice guy either.

    • justabill

      Wait, being willing to put someone else above yourself is unattractive? Are you a 13 yr old girl? Come on, be serious. I get your point, but that kind of blanket statement is what shifts men over to the asshole side of the spectrum.

      • Orator

        No, what shifts men over to the asshole part of the spectrum is spending all their time trying to be a nice guy, and watching assholes get the best looking women. Then they either become bitter, or become assholes themselves and starting getting the women who ignored them.

        Also excessively putting someones interests above your own makes you about as sexy as a doormat, and you will be treated as such.

        • The_Dood

          The whole time I was reading this, all I could think of was…
          We're dicks! We're reckless, arrogant, stupid dicks. And the Film Actors Guild are pussies. And Kim Jong Il is an asshole. Pussies don't like dicks, because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes: assholes who just want to shit on everything. Pussies may think they can deal with assholes their way. But the only thing that can fuck an asshole is a dick, with some balls. The problem with dicks is: they fuck too much or fuck when it isn't appropriate — and it takes a pussy to show them that. But sometimes, pussies can be so full of shit that they become assholes themselves… because pussies are an inch and half away from ass holes. I don't know much about this crazy, crazy world, but I do know this: If you don't let us fuck this asshole, we're going to have our dicks and pussies all covered in shit!

          • http://twitter.com/hellhunterx @hellhunterx

            Who said TV can't teach you anything?

          • Frylock

            Thank you

      • sadman

        In the case of putting the woman ahead of you, yes it is unattractive. Women want to be led and be dominated by their man. The confusing part is that women will fight you and demand control. If you look to a woman to define you then you will find ruin and unhappiness.

        • DrGarnicus

          I like this. Good shite!

        • Amy

          "Women want to be led and dominated by their man" ahahahahaha

    • Vanflank

      You know there is a wealth of middle ground between nice guy, and asshole just waiting to be explored.


    • otherwise,wellstated


      • rabble

        It was killing me that so many people commented without bringing that up, thank you.

    • Marie

      Well said!

      I've never been attracted to bad boys and jerks, I've always dated nice guys only. To finally be turned off when they make me the centre of their world. Now the love of my life is that nice guy with self-respect you've been speaking about in the last part of your comment.

      Kudos to you, my good sir.

  • http://thechive.com/ bkfrijoles

    Hell yeah Falzone

  • freshfraser

    Exactly! People need to realize that life is a journey, and you have to always analyze yourself and keep growing. I just hope more people watch this

  • Ian

    U know what, I realized I’m a fuckn man an this guy is a pussy an don’t feel like listening to this shit.

  • rabidpanda147

    best quote… "if your confident your going to get mouth hugs" hahaha

    • Pooper

      I agree. He just started a new Phrase

    • yokki

      if you're confident, then you are going to get mouth hugs

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  • benjiman

    am i the only one who gets really annoyed with all the cuts in this sort of videos?

    • Carlos

      I get annoyed because everyone in youtube does it. Be original people.

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  • http://twitter.com/Jorgepro8 @Jorgepro8

    where is he going?

    • Queue

      He's on his way around the block, spittin' out truth! Or, Connecticut. Probably both.

  • Abrikosmanden

    WTF?!??! When has this boy/girl thing ever needed this much scrutiny?
    Why do people make it into something that has to be analyzed, trained and honed?

    We've been doing this for centuries and the population of the earth is increasing steadily – maybe it's working out all right!

    • Queue

      You answered your own question. We've been doing this for centuries (although, more like… well, forever). That's exactly why there's so much scrutiny. Frankly, I'm surprised it isn't worse than it is. At least here, unlike that long, lame, blue, text-picture thing the other day, we have a guy who is able to make some decent sense out of the whole thing in a way that might actually be able to help a few people out.

      I wouldn't get too upset over seeing stuff like this. It'll never go away. At least theChive is still more butts than this anyhow, and we can all be grateful for that.

    • immaturity FTW

      hehe.. Anal-ized

  • Kcruz09

    lol, mouth hugs.

  • Fhunjunkie88888

    Yup, this guy is gay. All there is to it is, assholes get a vast amount of pussy, nice guys may get married and have one. The asshole bangs 8s and if the nice guy is lucky, he marries a 5. It’s up to each individual’s perogative on what they want

  • BrianBrains

    My thought is that women want jerks because it brings attention to them. Poor Susie has such an asshole for a boyfriend but she is such a nice girl. Then she hears how she can do better than that, and how she deserves more.That being said, Confidence does trump Assholedom.

    • bob

      her bitchy friends will always tell her she can do better. lol its inevitable.

  • oridotan

    Agree except for his crossing out lists
    this can be dangerous cause pretty soon you end up with a criteria that nobody can meet (or its just way out of your league)
    I'm not saying to stay with a guy that makes loud noises when he eats if thats something that you cant live with
    but lets be honest nobody is perfect and we all have our quirks – the idea is to accept those you can live with

    • steppa

      Well said!

  • Kometes

    At least with an asshole you know he's an asshole. With "nice guys" who will pretend to be your friend to get into your pants, and who then get passive aggressive – or plain aggressive – when you tell them that you don't see them as dating material because the friend routine has sucked any sexual interest out of the relationship…

    Well, they're not only assholes, they're dishonest and untrustworthy assholes.

    Guys, if you are nice, you don't need to tell anyone you're nice. People will already know.

    • Flicka

      Fo sho

      • Cat_in_the_hat

        I usually find these types of comments – weird. That guy who likes you might like you because he got to know you as a friend. I can see the creepy angle when a guy tries to date every friend he ever makes, but on the other hand I have a hard time accepting, "This guys is a real sleazy because he took time to get to know me, but I'm totally down with random guy #6 since he was up front about wanting a booty call."

        • Kometes

          That's a false dichotomy. The choice is not exclusively between "get here for sex now bitch!" guy and "if I buy you a load of stuff and offer to do work for you will you maybe hold my hand? And then give me a blow-job?" guy. If I am friends with a guy who then comes to like me, then I expect him to man up about it and say "Hey, you've got a great personality, do you want to go on a date?" Chances are I'll say yes, because I like men who are confident enough to be kind, strong enough to be gentle, and brave enough to make the first move or to handle it if I do.

          But Nice Guys ™ are too cowardly to do that, so they will continue to be creeps, and then whine about how they can never get out of the friendzone. Because they think women are like dogs, who if they get treated with the absolute minimum amount of decency, will fall in love.

          tl;dr: nice guys are great. Nice Guys who whinge about the friendzone are not nice guys. Would Good Guy Greg talk to his friends about how he totally did a girl a favour this one time and the bitch didn't drop her pants? Or is that Scumbag Steve behaviour?

          • rabble

            I love how you relate to the ignorant male through meme characters, brilliant!

  • Whatever

    Just bringing up the subject is enough to make women stop being attracted to you.

  • um_yeah

    I will never get those two and a half minutes of my life back…. Time to go back to anything else but watching this. If you are inspired by this then you are not the one getting laid.

    • Socrates

      do you want your time back for typing out that message as well?

  • Chantal

    Women like asshole because assholes treat everybody like shit. And for a moment they treat the woman better than they treat the rest of the world, and then the woman goes "omg, he loves me and I'm so special because he doesn't treat me like shit like the rest of the world!" and then he sleeps with her/gets what he wants from her and then treats her like he treats everyone else.

    Then for some reason the woman can't comprehend that she's not special, and proceeds to think that he must be hiding his "true" feelings therefore she must try even harder to show him that he really does "love her" and she really is "special".

    Moral of the story, assholes are only nice when they want something. Women can't accept that they're not "the exception".

    • Yo diggity


  • Anonymous

    Fuck being a asshole, fuck being the nice guy, I’m gonna be me and do what I do best.. Chive and find chivettes ;)

  • All method up

    The guy in this video looks like a complete jerk maybe he is just mad that girls won’t date him but doesn’t understand since they love assholes

  • misschris

    I thought this was really funny and really well said. He's right, it usually does take time to figure out what you want, and what you deserve.
    If you're still attracted to bitchy, ungrateful girls, or complete asshole guys, then you're just not matured yet and still working it all out. And that's OK. It will come in time.
    But it is good to try to realize early that if he or she doesn't make you happy, cut your losses and you *will* be OK in the long run. And so will they. And you will probably both be better off. (And if they aren't, well fuck em anyway. At least you will be.)

    • Ellen

      God you make me moist.

    • Heather

      Well said, Miss Chris, well said!!!

  • Renaldo

    Women don’t put you in the friendzone, you do. You don’t have to act like you don’t care or give backhanded compliments, just stop apologizing for being a man with sexual needs. Try it. Be more honest and upfront with your intentions. Whether that’s to sleep with her, have a relationship with her, whatever. And yeah, you will undoubtedly get a lot of no’s. So what? There’s a lot of girls, man. At least you found out the first or second time you met her, rather than wasting weeks trying to friendship your way into some pussy, only to have it not work. And don’t take rejection personal. If you know you’re a fun person to hang out with, but she doesn’t want to, that truly is her loss. If you’re not, work on it. Take a good hard look at yourself. “Why would people (or, more specifically, girls) want to spend time with me? It’s scary sometimes, I’ll say it, but it’s worth it.

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