Three-year-old Freddie Darby’s mother, Rowena, was diagnosed with bowel cancer shortly after Freddie was born. And knowing that her time is short, Rowena decided to leave some sage advice for her son to discover as he comes of age. Rowena left a unique piece of advice on a series of cards that Freddie will receive on each birthday and Christmas until he is 21.
‘I can’t waste any time crying,’ she says. ‘Of course, there have been tears and the last thing I want to do is leave Freddie. But I can’t let my time be taken up by being upset because what good is it going to do? The important thing is to spend time with Freddie, give him lots of lovely memories and make sure he can cope when I’m no longer around.’ Rowena went on to admit that, “I’m jealous of all those people who are going to carry on living and spend time with Freddie. I need to have something there so he won’t forget me, too.’
It is a small parting gift from mother to son, so that he may not only remember her but also stay connected with her as he grows into manhood.