When a group of people laughs, people will instinctively look toward the group members they feel closest to (or want to feel closest to).
Observe people’s feet when they’re talking to you. If they are pointed away from you then that person really doesn’t want to speak to you (or they want the conversation to end).
When you’re on a first date, take that person somewhere exciting. They’ll associate you with that thrilling feeling. BOOM.
If you’re in a group meeting and expect someone to take you to task, sit right next to them. They’ll lose the pack mentality that makes them feel safe to attack you. Bare minimum, they’ll minimize their aggression towards you.
Try to notice someone’s eye color when you meet them. People will like you more for increased eye-contact.
If you work in customer service, put a mirror behind you. Customers will be nicer because nobody wants to see themselves acting like an asshole. True story.
Most people can’t tell the difference between brilliance and confidence. If you seem like you know what you’re doing, people tend to buy into that and rally around you.
While on a busy sidewalk, look at where you’re going instead of at the people in your way. If they see your eye-line they’ll likely move out of your path. That’s power you can’t buy.
Foot-in-the-door: People are more likely to agree to do something for you if you get them to do something simpler for you first. Dirty trick, admittedly, but effective.
Door-in-the-face: People are also more likely to agree to a smaller favor if they deny a larger one or two first.
Chew gum or eat food if you’re doing something that would normally make you nervous. It tricks a primal part of your brain into thinking you couldn’t be in danger because you’re eating.
If you make yourself excited to see other people, the next time they see you, they’ll likely be a lot happier to see you.
Before interviews, imagine yourself as old friends with your interviewers. You’re in charge of the way you perceive the situation and your comfort will be infectious.
Don’t say or write, “I think” or “I believe.” It’s already implied and it makes you sound unconfident and weak.
If you ask someone a question and they only give you a partial answer, maintain eye-contact and stay silent. The answerer will usually assume the original answer wasn’t good enough and they’ll keep talking. Power…Power…
Emotional expressions are one way to cause emotions. If you want to feel happy, smile as big as you can, and often.
If somebody is angry at you stay calm. They’ll probably get angrier, but they’ll be ashamed of themselves later, and maybe just maybe, they might even apologize.
Many physical effects of stress are the same as those of exhilaration (such as heavy breathing, speeding heart, etc.). If you reframe your threatening situation as a challenging one, your stress will turn into exhilaration.