Do not base your relationship off of your friends. Everybody knows that one couple who has more than copious amounts of sex (or so they say), and it’s important to realize you don’t need to be them to be happy. Comparing your own unique relationship to another can only create feelings of inadequacy and pain. The proper thing to do is to sit down with your partner and decide what type of sex life is right for you. Sorry if that sounds like a pharmaceutical drug commercial, but it’s true.
“A lot of people get really freaked out about how much sex is normal, how much sex drive you’re having,” Marin says. “They want a specific, exact, perfect number. We all feel really nervous about this, but each individual couple really has to figure out what feels good and right for them while also recognizing that it’s going to fluctuate throughout the course of the relationship.”