Having a healthy sex life is number 3 on my list of living requirements right behind food, and wat…alcohol. Wherever it is on your list, it’s important . Between what you see in the movies/television and magazines, there can be a lot of pressure to live up to a 50 Shades of Grey type of sex life. However, according to Berlin-based clinician Vanessa Marin, your sex life doesn’t need to be like what you perceive from outside influences, it should be catered to you and your significant other. Marin prides herself on helping people get the sex life they dream of, and she has a few tips on how to do just that. Check them out below.