Sometimes, you really don’t know what people think of you until after you, or they’ve, gone and then it’s too late to change it. Sometimes you find out from someone else, other times you learn new things when someone’s will is read.
Then you might hear things you don’t want to, and you find out that the things you did in life have come back to haunt you, or that your deceased person is a savage troll who left some malicious instructions.
Like these examples from Reddit . Dunno why they had to be so brutal, but there you are. Be nice to your elders, kids.