Ever sit there trying to craft the perfect opening message on Tinder, someone’s DM’s or even a simple text, only for it to go nowhere? Did you ever consider that it’s not the content of the words that messed you up, but the emoji’s you used? Didn’t think so.
Apparently, emoji’s are a huge part of whether or not you’re gonna get a text back. According to a 2017 study done by the dating app Clover, those little faces, symbols and fruits determine whether or not you’re gonna get someone to chill with, or if you’re taking care of things on your own.
Quick word of advice guys, no one likes the eggplant.
The process is simple. Clover took a look at what what going on with the 3M users worth of traffic on the app and analyzed which emojis were getting the most and least replies, when used in the opening message of a chat.
Here’s what girls are digging. A lot of them seem pretty flirty, though I am surprised by he sweat droplets as a clincher. The rest of them show a guy who’s confident, not too forward and respectful. That’s the key.
That said, it’s not a guarantee, obviously. Not everyone is the same, but odds are, if you’re rocking these emoji in that smartly-crafted and witty opener, you’ll get something in return.
But not all emoji are created equally, unfortunately.
The dreaded eggplant. Looks like that’s just a step too far an honestly, we all know what it means. Why open with that? The same goes for the clapping – it’s overdone, and the ‘bro’ness of the bicep and fist bump aren’t gonna get you anywhere.
If you avoid them, you’ll likely see the bottom row – the hearty eyes, the wave and a wink. Kinda like the old-school method of picking up in a bar.
If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. Though the last time I tried to say hi in a bar, ended up with me smelling like a cosmo and a vodka cran (didn’t know they were sisters).
Now, the more interesting part of the survey – the men. I’m not going to sugar coat it… we’re not as picky, and frankly, most of us will reply back to anyone of the female persuasion. But in case you are a lady and finding it hard to get a text back, here’s what men respond to in that opener.
To me, these show a laid back, funny kind of girl. There’s a sense of humor there, and just the right amount of flirt. I think you’d definitely get a text back with any or all of these.
Though for me (if you’re all interested), I respond to food emoji. Show me fries and a beer, and I’ll show you my room. Yes. It’s that easy.
Now, here’s where things get a little heavy. There’s plenty of articles out there and on this site about why girls and guys don’t get a text back, and in this respect, here’s some insight based on this one dating app. It’s not universal and everyone’s different.
In case you’re not getting anything back ladies.
The ring. Obvious, right? Today, dating apps aren’t for a forever deal; they’re for dates, hookups, a fun time. No need to bring out the big guns. We don’t like ring talk right off the bat, unless they’re made of onion and deep fried. The same goes for the crying face. There’s no drama in an opening message. Drama’s a hard stop for most, if not all guys, especially when you haven’t even met the person.
The poop emoji puzzles me though. I do like a good fart joke, and the poop emoji’s pretty versatile.
As for what we’ll send to you, it’s all about flowers and kisses. Open with a nice, romantic flirt, some bad-boy smirking and we’re in, right?
God, I hope so, I just sent like 10 messages in a row with roses in them.
Give them a try, see what you get back.
H/T Clover
