Telltale signs that will help you expose a liar (22 Photos)
For cultures who utilize the vertical/horizontal head-nods to indicate yes and no, a liar may experience a disconnect when saying something untruthful. They may verbally be saying “yes”, but you’ll catch them shaking their head no if they don’t believe what they’re saying.
Clearing the Throat
Believe it or not, whenever you lie your body actually goes into a ‘fight-or-flight’ mode. Telling a lie will actually make your body draw moisture from your throat and send it to your skin. If you suspect someone is lying, look for them to alleviate dryness in their throat.
Sliding the Jaw
In order to put moisture back in the throat, people tend to make a subconscious movement to simulate chewing. By moving the jaw left and right, they stimulate their salivary glands and produce more saliva.
Remember how your body goes into fight-or-flight mode and draws moisture to the skin? Look for moisture or sweat to indicate non-truthful behavior.
Liars have to be careful that their fabricated stories don’t conflict themselves, so they’ll often speak slower than is natural to self-edit the story on the fly.
Eyes Pointed Towards the Door
If a person is lying they’re generally uncomfortable, so look for them to eye an exit or a route that would remove them from the situation.
Telling Bare Bones Stories
When questioned, deceptive people generally want to say as little as possible. It’s easy to assume people would want to have an elaborate story, but studies show the vast majority give only the bare-bones.
Lack of Eye Contact
Most people who lie often feel at least a little bit of shame in doing so and will avoid eye contact. While the amount of eye contact a person is comfortable with differs from person-to-person and culture-to-culture, try noticing if they can’t look you in the eye.
Stories are Short and Sweet
Someone who gets annoyed for details whenever they’re telling a lie will generally become irritated. Generally, the longer and more detailed their story, the more likely it is they are telling the truth.
We’re not talking about a full shave here. Rather, if someone adjusts their hair or straightens out their tie, it may be a sign you’re not getting the real story.
Instead of answering a question about their truthfulness, liars will look for things around them to keep them occupied. This could be anything from moving their phone further away or rearranging nearby surroundings.
Liars often lean back in an attempt to create a physical distance between themselves and the person they are lying to. The discomfort caused by lying often makes us distance ourselves (or leave entirely) from the situational anxiety.
People who lie tend to be more physically reserved, keeping their hand and head movements to a minimum. This relates to the subconscious idea of being smaller and less noticeable. If they are less noticeable, the idea is that the other person won’t suspect something is up.
Straying out of Baseline
Most polygraph tests start out with simple questions with absolute truths. “Are you a man?” or “Do you have hair?” are questions used to establish a baseline of how somebody acts whenever they’re telling the truth. Since each person acts differently and has their own unique quirks, it’s important to establish a baseline of the person’s behavior to know when they’re straying from it and potentially lying.
Deferring to Bad Memory
If you’re telling the truth about a situation, it should be easy to pull up the chain of events from your memory bank. Since liars are omitting facts coming into their head, they may tell a story erratically, passing the blame off to a poor memory.
People who lie usually have to modify their story so far from the truth that they often backtrack on what they say. For example, “I got there at 9 P.M. Well, it was more like 9:30 P.M. or 9:40 even.”
Lifted Chin and Tilted Head
Liars will often lift their chin, moving the head backwards to mentally move away from the source of anxiety or boredom. They can also jerk their head back if you decide to ask something that questions their devious ways.
Checking the Time
Lying tends to make a person uncomfortable and bored, which in some cases leads them to frequently look at their watch.
Heavy breathing is a huge indicator of someone telling false stories. Since our bodies are preparing for immediate, extreme action, our breathing increases to get more blood to our muscles. This deep breathing can be seen by watching someone’s shoulders rise and fall and is sometimes accompanied by a cracked or garbled voice.
Freezing in Place
Instead of twisting their hands or moving around nervously, some liars will stiffen up straight, shocked but poised to make their next move.
Feet Pointed Away
Next time you find yourself in a small group, take a look at the feet around you. When someone points their feet your direction, it means they’re interested. Pointing the feet away, especially towards an escape route, may signal a lack of interest or that a person is lying.
Thinking Too Hard
Simple truths shouldn’t require a lot of thinking. For example, if you’re doing calculus as opposed to simple math, it takes you longer to process the information. Lies, since they’re more complicated than truths, can cause someone to have choppy storytelling.